Friends. Friends. Friends. We all need them. We all want them. Popularity has been the name of the game since the beginning of time. It’s the way we elect our politicians. It’s the way we find our jobs. It’s almost the American way of life.
But sometimes we go overboard for that popularity. We put ourselves in harm’s way just to be loved. Many relationships have been ruined by too many friends. The graveyards are filled with celebrities that took that desire too far. Numerous teenagers develop eating disorders because of it. And with the advent of social media, our pains are sure to reach biblical proportions.
So what is healthy? How many friends should a person have? What is going overboard? How can a person tell if their life is being threatened by the burning desire to be liked?
Here are the 5 ways to tell if you have too many friends:
1. Your cell phone is blowing up 24/7: Okay, nobody needs to talk on a phone all of the time. Nobody! Even call centers have periods of inactivity. So why do you feel it’s necessary to have that cell phone attached to your head? Chances are you’re probably talking so much that you’ve missed huge chunks of your life. Nobody has so many friends that they can’t stop talking on the phone.
2. Your social media time gives you Carpal Tunnel: If you’re not a secretary with a daily typing job or a gainfully employed writer, why are you typing so much on social media. No one needs to know your itinerary for the whole day. Yet you keep to your laptop like Super Glue is on your fingers. Come on, give that typing a break.
3. Your grades/work takes a nosedive: If you give so much of yourself to the world of partying that you forget your priorities, one of two things will happen. Either you’ll become a world famous socialite or you’ll flunk out of school / lose your job. Partying takes a gut punch when you have no money to finance it. It’s hard to get that great job when your grades tell a half-focused story.
4. You have to call your friends first: Guess what? Friends call each other. One friend isn’t always the initiator of that contact. If you find yourself having to dial your supposed “friends” more than they call you, maybe they’re not truly your friends.
5. When the rumors start: When you become the butt of all of the jokes and your reputation gets a little muddy. Watch out. Those friends that you thought were going to keep certain things in confidence have disappeared. That is when you know you may have too many friends. Real friends never snitch.
Some people need constant validation. That’s a recipe for disaster. If you look on the average person’s Facebook account you will see that they have a very small amount of friends. Those users that have over 100 are either lying to themselves or are exposed in the manners I’ve just outlined. Do yourself a favor. Keep your circle small.